Big Bird’s Comfy-Cozy Nest

Big Bird’s struggling after a confusing and upsetting thing happened, and Alan notices his friend’s having a hard time before Big Bird even says a word. As you watch this video together with children, notice the qualities Alan demonstrates during their conversation. As a supportive, trusted adult, he:

• is patient, comforting, and a good listener
• lets Big Bird know that he’s seen, heard, and cared for
• helps provide a safe, calm environment
• teaches strategies for self-soothing

The presence of a caring adult makes all the difference in the life of a child coping with the effects of trauma. Like Alan, you can communicate messages to children such as:

• You’re not alone. I’m here for you.
• I have some ideas about what we could do to help you feel better.
• I’m listening to you. You matter.
• What you say, feel, and think is important to me.
• Let me help you put some words to your feelings.
• Sometimes problems are too big to handle yourself. It’s smart to ask for help.
• Let’s find a way to help you do or think about things you love.
• Thank you for trusting me.
• I’m interested in you and what’s happening inside you.
• There are other adults who care for you, too.
• It’s great to share a special time together.