Adults may feel unsure about how to start a difficult conversation or what exactly to say, but it’s important to talk openly and honestly about grief.
There’s nothing easy about explaining death to a child, especially the death of a parent or close family member. Adults may feel unsure about how to start the conversation or what exactly to say, but it’s important to talk openly and honestly about the situation.
- Watch this video together in a quiet place in which children feel comfortable and safe, then begin a conversation, being as concrete as you can. For example, “Do you remember what Elmo’s daddy said about Elmo’s Uncle Jack?” (“Uncle Jack died. When a person dies, his or her body stops working. Their heart stops beating and their body stops moving, eating, and breathing.”) You may have to repeat these facts.
- Remind kids that whenever Elmo puts on Uncle Jack’s silly hat and swings a baseball bat, he thinks of him. Together, look for an object or find (or talk about) a special place that reminds kids of the person who died. It might be a book they’d read together, a park they used to visit, or a favorite food they ate together. Tell kids that each time they see this thing or go to this special place, they can remember their special person in their hearts.
Elmo and Jesse Remember Uncle Jack
A video to show that there are many ways to remember—and celebrate—a person who died.
How Children Grieve and How to Help
Consider the different ways children experience grief as they grow, and how you might help.
Learn about disenfranchised grief.
The Complexity of Loss
Consider different types of grief and loss.
New Family Roles
Ideas to help families navigate changes after loss.
The Giggle Game
Play this game to help children (and grown-ups) hone in on the good things in life.
You Are Special To Me
A printable to share encouragement and kindness with others.