When Kids Need Special-Special Comfort
In the midst of big changes, comfort items can provide a sense of continuity in a child’s life.
Watch the video together with children, noticing that each Sesame Street friend has a comfort item. Stuffed animals and blankets can build a sense of security and help children feel soothed during tough times. Comfort can come from an imagination activity, too, like Comfy Cozy Nest, in which Big Bird imagines his perfect safe place.
Ask children about their comfort items, if they have one. How long have they had it? What do they love about it? Does it have a name? (If not, you might help children think of one.) Tell children they can talk to their comfort item when they are scared, mad, or sad—or anytime!
If children don’t already have a comfort item, consider providing them with one. Parents might give children a piece of their clothing (the smell and feel may remind children of them) to help them feel safe when they’re apart. Favorite things, like a photo of a loved one, can also be comfort items. Children might sleep with, hug, hold, rub, “take care of,” or talk to their comfort items.
Something New
In this story, Elmo’s cousin Jesse helps remind children that big changes can mean new opportunities to learn and grow.
Jesse Expresses Grief Through Play
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Re-grieving as Seasons Change
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Growing as We Grieve
Parents and caregivers, reflect on your own experience of grief and hear what has helped other families cope, thrive, and find joy.
Express Yourself with Elmo and Jesse
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Growing as They Grieve
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Learn ways to support Native American children and families who are grieving with compassion and cultural humility.
