Comfy-Cozy Nest

Creating safe places in our minds can be a key coping strategy, and Big Bird is here to help.

Traumatic experiences are a big deal…but Big Bird’s got a big spirit, a big heart, and big dreams. That’s why he’s the perfect bird to teach children the important coping strategy of creating their own safe spaces. Use the Comfy-Cozy Nest video, storybook, game, and coloring page to help children learn the strategy.


Big Bird is struggling after a confusing and upsetting thing happened, and Alan notices his friend is having a hard time before Big Bird even says a word. As you watch this video together with children, notice the qualities Alan demonstrates during their conversation. As a supportive, trusted adult, he: 

  • is patient, comforting, and a good listener 
  • lets Big Bird know that he’s seen, heard, and cared for 
  • helps provide a safe, calm environment 
  • teaches strategies for self-soothing 

The presence of a caring adult makes all the difference in the life of a child coping with the effects of trauma. Like Alan, you can communicate messages to children such as: 

  • You’re not alone. I’m here for you. 
  • I have some ideas about what we could do to help you feel better. 
  • I’m listening to you. You matter. 
  • What you say, feel, and think is important to me. 
  • Let me help you put some words to your feelings. 
  • Sometimes problems are too big to handle yourself. It’s smart to ask for help. 
  • Let’s find a way to help you do or think about things you love. 
  • Thank you for trusting me. 
  • I’m interested in you and what’s happening inside you. 
  • There are other adults who care for you, too. 
  • It’s great to share this special time together.